tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7533863427856291179.post4479207408494030323..comments2024-01-11T18:40:24.112-06:00Comments on Julie Farrar: What's In A Name Change, Mrs. Justin Timberlake?Julie Farrarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08810771028650707072noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7533863427856291179.post-70576298757945968012013-09-22T06:02:32.037-05:002013-09-22T06:02:32.037-05:00Did you know that in Canada, if you want to offici...Did you know that in Canada, if you want to officially change your last name, you have to change it on your birth certificate?! <br /><br />I have a German friend whose husband took her name. She says it's not uncommon over there. Stobbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17307341548219021848noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7533863427856291179.post-10444038651932358072013-09-19T21:25:23.293-05:002013-09-19T21:25:23.293-05:00Hi Julie,
I've been married for 33 years and w...Hi Julie,<br />I've been married for 33 years and we lived together 7 before that. From the start I told him I didn't want his name - I even told him that he couldn't have mine because it was my name. He was quite furious when I held to my conviction after the wedding, while I couldn't understand his unreasonable expectation. He told me that women in his home town would be proud to take his name so I told him he should have married one of them :) As you can see we managed to focus on the things that matter and he's still my best friend. My name is still important to me, it was all that I had from my Dad who died when I was 20. So to me, my name is much more than just a name.<br /><br />And I grew up through the bra burning, march on Washington for ERA, etc. It was an easy decision.<br /><br />Thanks - love the topic.<br /><br />KathyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7533863427856291179.post-2284882425648276912013-09-19T16:39:54.878-05:002013-09-19T16:39:54.878-05:00I loved reading all of these stories. I didn't...I loved reading all of these stories. I didn't even mention people I knew who changed because they liked their husband's name better. I don't think, though, I ever heard anyone who married someone with the same last name, Carol. What a great situation! If I had changed my name, my new name would have sounded a bit like an entree at an Indian restaurant. But that's still not the reason I kept mine.Julie Farrarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08810771028650707072noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7533863427856291179.post-32093501150115189682013-09-19T13:07:53.842-05:002013-09-19T13:07:53.842-05:00Interesting post, Julie. I went both ways. First t...Interesting post, Julie. I went both ways. First time I was married, I was so proud and happy I changed my last name to his. Besides, I liked his last name much more than mine. It was beautiful. When we divorced less than a year later, I went through the hassle to change all my documents back. Second time I got married, I didn't change my name - just in case. Unfortunately I was right. There was a second divorce. So my maiden name is still with me.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7533863427856291179.post-8737443716613663642013-09-19T07:03:55.874-05:002013-09-19T07:03:55.874-05:00It beats me, Julie. I admit those statistics are d...It beats me, Julie. I admit those statistics are disturbing. I'm not married, and although I don't know what I would have done had I married 20 years ago, I know for sure I wouldn't change my name now. Our names are our identity. Changing it to match a husband's is certainly a symbol - a symbol of how some women are still allowing themselves to be defined by men. Sad.Ellen Gregoryhttp://ellenvgregory.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7533863427856291179.post-61428710175906103492013-09-19T05:30:06.519-05:002013-09-19T05:30:06.519-05:00Wasn't a great issue for me - my maiden name w...Wasn't a great issue for me - my maiden name was the same as my married name, so I only changed the Miss to Mrs!!!<br /><br />Would have been interesting to have gone down the hyphenated route though - Mrs Thomson-Thomson :0)Carol in Edinburghhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17390958812171060374noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7533863427856291179.post-75780450867830018102013-09-18T22:55:22.937-05:002013-09-18T22:55:22.937-05:00Good post, Julie! Having just gotten married last ...Good post, Julie! Having just gotten married last year, I struggled with this very question. Most of my high school friends from a smaller, more conservative city have changed their names; most of the women I know here in Toronto have kept theirs and were surprised that I was even considering changing mine. <br /><br />Complicating the issue was that I was marrying across cultures: my husband's name was literally foreign to me, though my first name is ambiguous enough that I could well have passed myself off as East Indian...at least until I was introduced in person!<br /><br />The idea of confounding expectations did have a certain appeal. But in the end I decided that my name was ME, and I didn't really want to change it. I didn't feel the need to share a name with my husband or take a new name to signify the creation of our family. We're just as much married either way.Siri Paulsonhttp://siripaulson.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7533863427856291179.post-32183880799488421862013-09-18T18:30:20.077-05:002013-09-18T18:30:20.077-05:00I married and divorced young, and went back to my ...I married and divorced young, and went back to my maiden name. As the years passed by and I remained single, I've been shocked by the number of women who treat me as if I belong to a lower class because I do not "have a husband". I've come to realize that there is still a certain "status" tied to being married, and it's my guess that the women who choose to change their names want people to KNOW they are married to cash in on the status. Kind of sad, really. When I do get married again, I will keep my name. If my husband wants to change his, that's his decision. ;-)elizabethfaishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04054541448639306878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7533863427856291179.post-77741252335812785032013-09-18T18:11:38.425-05:002013-09-18T18:11:38.425-05:00Well, it's complicated! When I married the fir...Well, it's complicated! When I married the first time, I used a hyphenated last name. In my second marriage, I took his name because, well, Nadine Galinsky has a really cool ring to it. Yes, I'm that shallow sometimes. <br /><br />So, when I married Henry Feldman, I took his name because it felt like bad form to keep the name of a previous husband. I use Galinsky Feldman on books, sort of a John Cougar Mellancamp thing, but Galinsky is no longer my legal name.<br /><br />I'm done getting married, and I'm done changing my name. If this one doesn't last, God forbid, I figure I have no business being married, let alone worrying about what name to take!<br /><br />Good for you for keeping it simple!<br /><br /><br />Nadine Feldmanhttp://nadinefeldman.comnoreply@blogger.com